We often hear the horror stories of social media but I am here to tell you there are plenty of good things and I am a living example of the great people you will meet. Without social media I honestly believe I would not be here today and know for a fact we would be homeless if not worse.
We were the average middle class family but than in 2001 things went down hill fast. It started when a women conned and stole over 160,000.00 from my parents leaving them on the verge of bankruptcy and to this day she has not been held accountable because of corrupt small town justice. In 2004 my father went in for routine surgery and it went horribly wrong leaving him in a coma and after 8 months of rehab he finally left the hospital disabled with no use of his right side and with only 3 fingers on his left hand he had to learn how to do everything over again. We fought and fought but on St. Patrick’s day 2012 I took my mother to the hospital and she was diagnosed with colon cancer and rushed into immediate surgery. It didn’t go well and she had to be taken by helicopter to Pittsburgh PA where they saved her life but left her disabled in the process. The Dr. was amazed she pulled through and even told her the shape she was in when she arrived she should not be alive.
I had been working 8 hours a day, caring for my father 12 hours a day while my mother worked 3rd shift and slept but made myself sick so I had to choose and I gave up my job to be my parents caregiver. For 15 years my living, bed and dining room was a small room with a flat mattress on the floor I picked up during the day and I would do it all over again because it took me a while to learn but nothing is more important than family.
Things went really wrong when a few years later on fathers day my brother Jody (a Desert Storm veteran) died suddenly from a heart attack, Then just weeks later my mother got an infection and ended up in the hospital where she lost her cancer battle.
The losses my my mother and brother sunk me in to a deep, deep depression. As 2017 was approaching our home was in foreclosure, the utilities were about to be shut off and we still owed thousands for the funerals and I was just going through the motions. Then I took my father to the bathroom and set him on the toilet, I asked if he was done and got no response so I jumped up and ran to find him unresponsive. I called 911 and got him to the ER to find out he had a massive seizure, a combination of his congestive heart failure, kidney failure and diabetes along with pneumonia set it off.
This was the wake up call I needed and I reached out for help, that’s where I met Nancy, Lynn, Melissa, Imran, Victoria and others who helped me get back on track. I set up a gofundme and was able to finish paying off the funerals then with help went to work on the bills and managed to get a loan modification for our mortgage that kept us in our home and work on payment plans with the utilities which we just officially got caught up in January of this year.
I was still sleeping on the floor when Lynn convinced me to find a bed, even offering to buy one knowing it would help me take care of me. Instead I put my mothers hospital bed in my room and got a new mattress, sleeping in bed the last year hasn’t fixed the damage done from years of sleeping on floor but it’s done wonders on my back and in turn my morale.
I promised my mother her last week in the hospital that I would do everything I could to keep my father healthy and at home and thanks to the great people I have met I not only have been able to do that but he was even in good enough spirits to adopt a new furry family member. He was looking at pictures and saw a bunch of kittens and one hiding in the corner and said “go get that one, she needs our love” and Gracie has been with us for a year.
None of this would have been possible without the great people I met on Twitter, I named a few but there are so many more and I could never name them all. I hope you know who you are and how much you have meant to us, we would not be here today without you and even today the help I receive from some of you is beyond words. I still get depressed every once in a while but my new friends are there to help pick me up and dust me off and I will never, ever be able to repay the kindness show.
This is done as both a testament to the good that comes from social media and a huge thank you and hug to all those who were there for us these last couple years.