November 4, 2016
Making Big Change Easier
Small Steps to Big Change
by Madisyn Taylor
When making big change in our life, it can be easier to break it up into a few small changes to avoid overwhelm.
When we decide that it’s time for big changes in our lives, it is wise to ease into them by starting small. Small changes allow us to grow into a new habit and make it a permanent part of our lives, whereas sudden changes may cause a sense of failure that makes it difficult to go on, and we are more likely to revert to our old ways. Even if we have gone that route and find ourselves contemplating the choice to start over again, we can decide to take it slowly this time, and move forward.
Sometimes the goals we set for ourselves are merely indicators of the need for change and are useful in getting us moving in the right direction. But it is possible that once we try out what seemed so ideal, we may find that it doesn’t actually suit us, or make us feel the way we had hoped. By embarking on the path slowly, we have the chance to look around and consider other options as we learn and grow. We have time to examine the underlying values of the desire for change and find ways to manifest those feelings, whether it looks exactly like our initial goal or not. Taking small steps forward gives us time to adjust and find secure footing on our new path.
Life doesn’t always give us the opportunity to anticipate or prepare for a big change, and we may find ourselves overwhelmed by what is in front of us. By choosing one thing to work on at a time, we focus our attention on something manageable, and eventually we will look up to see that we have accomplished quite a bit. Forcing change is, in essence, a sign that we do not trust the universe’s wisdom. Instead, we can listen to our inner guidance and make changes at a pace that is right for us, ensuring that we do so in alignment with the rhythm of the universe.
Good Friday Evening:
The only thing I resinate to is ‘rhythm of the Universe’ and ‘inner guidance’ here. As a fearless child, I’ve only had to learn to fear. Not hard to do as there are plenty of fearful persons around to be a kill joy, just pick one.
I apologize if I seem sassy tonight but I’m a bit aggravated by two individuals who out of their own fears, ruined a friend of mines day because they selfishly felt it more important to “dump” on him rather than be more mature in their approach with him. I watched his demeanor totally disappear into a quiet reserve. The two adult children of 35 and 38 never considered his feelings. It sucked to observe a happy guy turn silent; it ruined my end of day too. It was an immature ‘one whopper of an emotional dump’. Shame on these girls.
I’ve worked hard to know myself, my triggers and understand the emotional, albeit dysfunctional, behavior patterns of family members. One in particular I have had to pull a 10 foot pole between us many times and end the conversation when a boundary is broken. Not all folks know how to do this. My friend certainly did not.
Naturally, I shared with him the need to call this boundary and explain to his children how they affected his feelings. I do hope he does this. I do hope they will care.
The Universe continues regardless. Opportunities will continue to present themselves and you can see to learn, miss it completely or continue the same problem over again. Which happens to you?
I’ve learned to see. It is a beautiful thing.
May you get off of yourself enough to see how you affect loved ones as well. If not, you’re a baby soul indeed. If you’ve read this thus far, you’re not ;). We must be patient and help those who are harmed by others, even if it’s just emotionally.
We were never put on this Earth to be hateful. This is not love. You were made of love, be so with others.